Hope you are having a great start to 2018!
In the last blog, I opened myself up. Transparency is something that I take great pride in. You will see that I’m just a normal person who deals with some of the same struggles as all of you. This year, I will continue to talk about depression, share some laughs, and a peek into life as a married bonus mom. This is me letting you into this little life that will bring its ups and downs.
New Years Eve was spent watching the Hawks with friends (sure hope we can do better next season), then wrapped up 2017 with the hubs and kiddo having fondue. I was laughing on our way home from dinner thinking about how many times we visited The Melting Pot in 2017. It’s odd for me since I don’t eat dairy, but this place has a grip on Kyle and Jess. We were there at least 5 times $$$. I couldn’t think of a better way to close out what was a challenging than with the 2 people who have my heart.
When we got home that night, the TV was already tuned into seeing the countdown to 2018. As I watched the countdown from 10 to 1, I made myself a promise - a promise to be a better person, wife, and friend and to make a difference. But how? My goal this year is to give more to my community; give back to those who gave me strength and hope. I will continue to support to the organizations that I so strongly believe in. Like Seattle Humane, Seattle Animal Shelter Foundation and Forefront.
Something that has weighed heavy on my heart and mind this week are the fans, friends and family of WSU Quarterback Tyler Hilinski.
I've told you my thoughts on suicide. My father and uncle both committed suicide.
This comes back to my feelings and thoughts about mental health. If you read my previous blog posts, you know about the struggle I have with depression.
The heartbreak is real.
The feelings are real.
My biggest pet peeve is when people tell you that it will be all ok, or "this too shall pass". While that may make sense to say to one who is having these feelings to you, it doesn't make sense to the ones that are feeling it. While I can't speak for everyone, I can speak for myself.
If you said to me that it's all going to be ok when I'm feeling lost, logically I know it will be. My head would tell you otherwise. I sink into place of darkness, it's really hard to explain. If someone needs to cry, let them. Just comfort them, don't try to fix it. Let them be in that moment.
My colleague Kim Shepard wrote a fantastic story about this. Please take a moment to read this.
SEIZE THE AWKWARD... THAT'S THE MANTRA OF A NEW CAMPAIGN FROM THE AMERICAN FOUNDATION FOR SUICIDE PREVENTION AND "JED". A NON-PROFIT STARTED BY PARENTS WHO LOST THEIR SON, JED, TO SUICIDE.
THE CAMPAIGN IS GEARED TOWARD TEENS AND YOUNG ADULTS... AND IT TAKES A SOFT APPROACH TO A SERIOUS SUBJECT. IT OFFERS ADVICE ABOUT HOW TO START A CONVERSATION ABOUT MENTAL HEALTH.
THERE'S ALSO A STAR COMPONENT. SEVERAL WELL-KNOWN ACTORS AND YOU-TUBERS SHARE THEIR OWN EXPERIENCES. LIKE TYLER POSEY, FROM MTV'S TEEN WOLF SERIES... WHO SHARES WHAT IT WAS LIKE AFTER HE LOST HIS MOM TO BREAST CANCER.
HE SAYS IT TOOK HIM A WHILE TO BE COMFORTABLE WITH OPENING UP... BUT HE'S GLAD HIS FRIENDS DIDN'T LET IT GO AND KEPT ASKING HIM HOW HE WAS DOING. NOW, HE DOES THE SAME FOR THEM......
AND THE WHOLE SERIES REVOLVES AROUND THE IDEA THAT WE DON'T NEED TO WORK SO HARD TO FILL THOSE AWKWARD SILENCES.
IN ADDITION TO THEIR TIPS ABOUT STARTING THE CONVERSATION... AND KEEPING IT GOING. THE CAMPAIGN ALSO TALKS ABOUT WHEN IT'S TIME TO GET A PROFESSIONAL INVOLVED. YOU CAN FIND ALL OF THE VIDEOS AND INFORMATION AT SEIZE-THE-AWKWARD-DOT-ORG.
All I have been thinking about is how deep into the darkness Tyler was. My heart hurts for him and for his family. I will continue to pray for him and their healing.
You are not alone, and if you are feeling like you need someone to talk to I'm going to leave these numbers right here for you.
National Suicide Prevention Lifeline
Text Crisis Text Line
Or contact the organization that I fully stand behind.
While I may not be a Coug, I'm a fan. Tyler you will be missed and your spirit will live on.